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February 13, 2016

5 Questions to help you speak life-giving words to your child: What you say becomes their inner voice (pt 3)

I find it terrifying, but also dignifying, that I can shape who my child becomes – etching my influence and values into their deepest psyche. In my last two posts (click here and here),  I’ve shown that this is especially done through the words I speak or for that matter fail to speak. My words…

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Tag: power-of-words
February 5, 2016

The all-important voice of parents: What you say to your kids becomes their inner voice (pt 2)

‘The voice of parents is as the voice of gods.’ So says Shakespeare. I didn’t take him for much of a parenting expert, but on this aspect of raising kids, I have to agree with the old guy. Our words carry a kind of divine weight during our children’s early years… impressing something that will…

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Tag: inner-voice, power-of-words
January 26, 2016

Words work both ways: What you say to your kids becomes their inner voice (pt 1)

What you say to your kids becomes their inner voice. Perhaps, the most under-estimated dimension of my parenting is the words I speak, or don’t speak, to my children. Recently, back from his first day back at school, Fynn (5) proudly told Julie and I something that inspired this post… ‘Today, me and my fwiends…

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Tag: inner-voice, power-of-words
January 21, 2016

10 Super-practical ways to listen so your kids and teens talk (Pt 5)

Of course you love your kids. But how you express this love makes all the difference between them feeling loved or not. The same goes with listening. Of course we all listen to our kids. Of course we know how to listen – we think. But what if the way we listen has always been…

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Tag: listening
January 9, 2016

How to not forget the unforgettable things your kid says: How to listen so your kids talk (Pt 4)

So many parents only capture their kid’s pictures, but forget to capture their words. Although listening is not my strong point, there’s one kind of listening that I’ve become good at – listening for the unforgettable things my kids say. About a decade ago, a seasoned parent told me, ‘Promise me this: when you have…

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Tag: humour, kids-quotes, listening
January 3, 2016

Oh dear, surfs up!

Happy New Years. For many it’s time to shed some kilos. Take heart, my buddy Grant Clark writes this humorous guest blog for us on the subject. Just so you know, I don’t surf with him…   “It is a well-established fact that Exercise and I are not particularly good friends. I would say that…

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Tag: exercise, humour, surfing
December 30, 2015

Ten things they’re saying you’re not listening for: How to listen so kids talk (Pt 3).

There’s ten things our kids say that we tend to miss because we aren’t listening for it. Our child’s squabbling, demands, cries, screeches, rants and raves have a way of forming survival filters in our hearing – which have the unintended effect of causing us to miss some amazing stuff they sometimes say. I’ve already…

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Tag: listening
December 26, 2015

Listen to them or lose them: How to listen so your kids talk (Pt 2).

If we don’t listen to our kids, we may lose them. Here’s why. Previously I admitted that I suck at listening. With so much work required, is it really necessary that I do the hard yards of improving? We know we have ‘two ears and only one mouth’ but are there reasons of critical import…

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Tag: listening
December 17, 2015

Why I suck at listening: How to listen so your kids talk (Pt 1)

I suck at listening. My wife has told me so 100 times – and that’s only the times I heard her say it. Before we had kids it was about my failure to listen to her. Now she says I often apply the same inept attentiveness to our little ones. I wouldn’t have believed her,…

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Tag: listening
December 12, 2015

Why we are staying – for the kids

(By guest blogger and my wife, Julie Williams) There’s a weird thing happening in SA. Well, to be fair, there’s a lot of weird sh@# going down. But I’d like to focus in on the niche weirdness of white, upper-class parents in SA at this point in time. And their seemingly unchecked yet (in my…

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Tag: south-africa
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