Should We Use TIME OUT or TIME IN With Our Kids?

Should we use Time Out or Time In with our small kids? Yes. Julie and I use both with our younger kids. We’re fans of Time In. Kids act their worst when they feel their worst. They need love and connection most when they deserve it least. The cool thing about Time In is that…

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Ten Things Your Kids Need Most From You

Ten Things Your Kids Need Most From You. What do kids (tweens especially) think they need from us parents? I just had a little chat with Eli (12) and Fynn (10) and asked them that very question. I will share with you the gist of what they said. I’d always thought that I needed a…

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The 3 Crucial Modes of Parenting: Which Is Missing In The Way You Parent?

There are 3 paramount modes of parenting: being a Pants-wearer, a Pied Piper and a Pal. Like a 3-legged chair needs all 3 legs, so we need all 3 aspects in the way we parent our kids. Before I explain these terms, let me tell you how I came to understand these 3 modes. It…

Tag: authority, enlisting-co-operation

Tired of arguing with your child or teen? (Pt 2) Four steps to defusing their resistance

I’ve had enough of the constant challenges to my authority (I have 5 kids). But I also dread becoming a tyrant. Is there a better way than coming down strongly on my kids every time? Mysteriously (for low-EQ dudes like me at least) the more I validate my kid’s feelings of disagreement with my decision,…

Tag: acknowledge-feelings, arguing-with-kids, authority, listening, overcome-resistance, responsive-listening

Tired of arguing with your child or teen? (Pt 1) How to deflect an argument before it begins

It can’t be avoided. Practical parenting involves refusing our kid’s requests, or telling them what to do or what to stop doing. No matter how nice I am, I have to do this, sometimes several times a day. ‘You can’t swim now.’ ‘Now’s not the best time to watch that.’ ‘I don’t think it’s best…

Tag: acknowledge-feelings, arguing-with-kids, authority, overcome-resistance

6 Ways to avert mutiny in your strong-willed child

It’s Friday fun night. Homemade pizzas in their bellies, the three oldest kids are watching a DVD, but it grinds to a halt, too scratched to play any further. Trying to protect the fun, I cheerfully announce, ‘Come kids, we’re going back to the DVD store for another one. Who’s coming with?’ Fynn (5) comes…

Tag: authority, strong-willed-child

Should We Use TIME OUT or TIME IN With Our Kids?

Ten Things Your Kids Need Most From You

The 3 Crucial Modes of Parenting: Which Is Missing In The Way You Parent?

Tired of arguing with your child or teen? (Pt 2) Four steps to defusing their resistance

Tired of arguing with your child or teen? (Pt 1) How to deflect an argument before it begins

6 Ways to avert mutiny in your strong-willed child

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